UK independent school open days: What to expect, questions to ask and how to prepare
Making an in-person visit while you are researching independent schools is an essential step in choosing the right school for your child. From the moment you arrive, you are not just gathering information; you are trying to get a sense of the school's character by observing interactions between pupils and teaching staff. This will help you determine whether your child will be happy and fulfilled in this school’s environment.
Open days provide a valuable opportunity to do just this. Whether you are exploring pre-prep options for a four-year-old or shortlisting sixth forms for a teenager, this guide walks you through what to expect, the questions to ask, and how to make the most of each school visit.
What is an open day?
An open day is a scheduled event hosted by a school specifically to welcome and meet prospective families. It allows you to:
- Explore the school campus
- Meet the teaching staff and pupils
- Form an understanding of the school's ethos, teaching approach, and community
Think of an open day as a school's version of ‘opening the front door’. It is a chance for you to experience the school in ‘real life’, rather than relying on the school’s website and prospectus to form an understanding of it.
Can I visit a school outside of an open day?
Yes. While open days are the most common and accessible way to visit, many schools also offer:
- Private tours by appointment
- Small-group visits during term time
- Taster days for children (sometimes separate from the open day itself)
If you are unable to attend the scheduled open day, then it's perfectly normal to contact the admissions office and request an alternative time to visit.
How many times should I visit a school before applying?
There is no fixed rule, but lots of families find it helpful to visit their favourite school at least twice:
1. Once for the open day, to get a general impression
2. A second time for a more focused tour and a further opportunity to meet key members of staff
If you are comparing multiple schools, then try to attend 3–5 open days before narrowing down your shortlist.
Should I visit more than one school?
Absolutely. Even if you are confident about a particular school, visiting others will give you:
- Perspective: You'll quickly notice what matters most to your family
- Comparison points: Facilities, teaching approach, and culture can vary significantly
- Options: Places are competitive, and so it is wise to have backups or alternatives
Is registering the same as applying?
No, and this can be confusing at first.
- Registering your child typically means you have expressed formal interest in the school. To register, you will likely have to complete a registration form and pay a non-refundable fee (usually £75–£250).
- Applying to a school is a separate step and usually comes after registration and involves assessments, interviews, and sharing reports from your child's current school.
You do not have to register just because you attended an open day.
How often are open days held?
This varies by school, but most schools host 1–3 open days per academic year, which usually take place in:
- Autumn (September-October) - the busiest period
- Spring (March-May) - ideal for early planning
- Occasionally, midweek or Saturday mornings, depending on the school
Check individual school websites to view event calendars.
How long does an open day visit usually last?
Typically, an open day takes 2–3 hours, although some may last half a day. The structure often includes:
- A welcome from the Head
- Pupil-led or staff-led tours
- Classroom visits or activity sessions
- Q&A with staff and current parents
- Refreshments and informal conversation
Who will I meet?
Parents will usually meet the following school representatives at an open day:
- The Headteacher or Principal
- Members of the teaching staff
- The admissions team
- Pupils who act as guides
- In some cases, current parents or alumni
These interactions are often the most insightful part of the visit, so be sure to ask questions.
Should I bring my child?
Yes, if the school allows it and your child is old enough to engage. Many schools actively encourage children to attend as:
- It helps to gauge their reaction
- They may ask their own questions
- It helps with a smoother transition at the point of entry
That said, if you're visiting pre-prep or early years, it's also acceptable to come alone for a more focused first visit.
What do I need to prepare in advance?
A little preparation goes a long way, and you should consider doing the following ahead of attending an open day:
- Read the school's website and prospectus
- Make a list of essential questions that you would like answers to
- Bring a notebook or phone to jot down your impressions
- Check the school's dress code if pupils are involved in tours
How do I book an open day?
Most schools require advance registration, either via:
- A form on their website
- Enquiring by email to the Admissions Team
- Calling the school directly
Try to express interest at least 2–4 weeks in advance of the open day, particularly during peak periods.
Does it cost money to attend?
- No, open days are free to attend; however, registering a child for a place often involves a non-refundable fee
- Accepting a place, if offered, usually requires a deposit (which can cost up to one term's school fees)
Remember, you are under no obligation to apply, register or accept a place after attending an open day.
What should I look for at an open day?
Here are some key points to keep in mind when attending an open day:
- Are the pupils happy, confident and engaged?
- How well do the teachers know their pupils? And are they warm and enthusiastic towards them?
- Are classrooms, sports areas, and common spaces clean and well-maintained?
- Does the school feel academic, nurturing, ambitious or inclusive? Or is the culture something else entirely?
- What is your gut telling you? Do you think your child will thrive here?
Useful questions to ask
- What is the school’s approach to pastoral care and pupil wellbeing?
- How does the school support different learning styles and abilities?
- What are the key entry points and admissions criteria?
- What is the balance between academics and co-curricular life?
- How many pupils go on to their first-choice senior schools/universities?
- How does the school handle discipline or behavioural concerns?
- What are the next steps if we are interested in applying?
FAQs: Independent School Open Days
Are open days mandatory ahead of registration?
No, but they are highly recommended. Nothing compares with seeing the school for yourself.
Can I change my mind after attending?
Yes, you are not expected to register or apply unless you feel inclined to do so.
Should I attend with other family members?
Many parents visit as a couple, but individual attendance, or bringing siblings with you, is equally common.
How quickly do places fill up?
Popular schools can fill a year or more in advance, so attending open days early is wise.